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TRAUMA

Post by Guest on 8/24/2012, 7:50 pm

I HAVE BEENYR HEALING FOR 8YRS DID,STARTED LIFE RECOVERY 15YRS AGO,I FEEL SURPRIZED ABOUT THE AMOUNT I FIND,CURRENLY, I FEEL PEACEFUL,AFTER A COUPLE DAYS OF MUCH FEELING REPRESSED EMOTION,AND GRIEF,I AM WONDERING IF ANY OF THE MEMBERS HERE EXPERIENCE AN AWARENESS THAT THEY STILL CAN SPLIT.I WAS FEELING SCARED WHEN I NOTICED THAT I WAS SPLITTING INTO THE PERSONALITIES OF SOME OF THE WOMAN THAT STAY WHERE I AM LIVING CURRENLY, I AM STAYING AT A SAFEHOUSE TO HEAL I SIGNED UP FOR 1YR AND I HAVE 6MONTH TO GO, I HAVE WENT THROUGH MUCH HEALING OVER THE LAST FEW MONTHS SO I WAS CONCERNED WHEN I NOTICED PARTS THE SOUNDED LIKE THE WOMEN HERE, I HAVE KNOW ABOUT MY SYSTEM TAKING ON PERSONALITIES OF PEOPLE CLOSE TO ME AND I AM HEALING FROM THAT BUT NOW I SEE PARTS Taking on these new personalites,i dont like it because my focus is not to split anymore,i want to become more functional.
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Re: TRAUMA

Post by Guest on 8/25/2012, 9:36 pm

Hi Destiny1! Many of the subscribers of this website do not see splitting as a disorder, but I know how you feel. The splitting was causing problems and I too worked on my life problems before I recognized DID. Only recently I admitted that it is a continuing issue when I got close to a coworker that I decided was a real good father to his only daughter. The thing is, Jenny and Jen showed up. I had thought this was a done issue, but there they were and I hadn't seen either of them, far as I know, for over 10 years. So I went back to therapy and we have been discussing why they showed up after so many years.

As for taking on the personalities of people you are around, some people would see that as an indication that you are a very creative person. I find DID to be an extremely creative response to trauma, but are you experiencing these personality changes due to trauma or is it something else? Is it interfering in your daily life? Are you aware of taking on these other personalities at the time you are taking them on or are you remembering taking them on later? Are you losing time? A person who writes fiction might respond differently toward this situation. An actor or perhaps a writer might be thrilled that they have such insight and access into various personalities because who would want to watch or read a story if every character was the same? Our parts are all part of a unit. That unit identifies us and what we think of ourselves. I was not angry at Jenny and Jen for showing up because they still wished for a good daddy, but I had to explain to them the reality that my coworker has his own life and is not interested in playing this role. Our daddy is dead and gone. We all spent a tremendous amount of crying over this. Jenny and Jen had to come to terms with the reality. Be good to yourselves.
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Re: TRAUMA

Post by Old Soul on 8/26/2012, 3:30 am

Hi Destiny,

I am sorry you are experiencing splitting, it sounds like you are aware of your system and how it worked in the past. You mentioned that you are in a safe house, and are working on somethings in your life. I'm glad you are in a safe place to move forward, even though it might feel like you are going backwards. Our systems were designed to protect us during times of stress, if you are in a safe house it sounds like you might be in a transitional place in your life. Everyone not just people with DID will potentially revert back to old coping skills during times of stress. Although you are splitting it may be your bodies natural response. Is there someone in your support system now you are comfortable to talk to about this? Remind yourself you are safe, and OK, be sure to practice self care. If you can and choose to talk to others or post here about what your internal voices are saying.

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