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WHY do I do this?

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WHY do I do this?

Post by Guest on 8/27/2012, 10:42 pm

I am reeeeeally mad at myself! Well, first of all, someone gave out the home phone number to a guy from church. Geez! He has such a strong accent, I can't even understand him, secondly, i am NOT interested and wanna hide now, cause he just called and I couldn't say no when he wants to get together. I'm gonna hide on Friday, and I'm NOT answering the phone if I don't know who it is!!!
I don't know why I don't just tell guys no, leave me alone, and I'm not interested in ANY THING with them! Why do I get myself into theses messes???
Cathie
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Re: WHY do I do this?

Post by Izabel on 8/27/2012, 11:47 pm

I can so relate to this. At one time during my life, in my 20's I do this same thing. I had the hardest time saying no when men would ask for my phone number and stuff. I would get mad at myself, and then come up with all kinds of ingenious ways to avoid the person. Going through that time and time again was so painful. It was a younger part of myself doing that. I think my time in therapy, and certain life experiences enabled me to grow out of that behavior.

It's not your fault. Please be gentle with yourself. That fact that you are aware that you have done this and/or have a pattern of doing this means there's a great chance of breaking the cycle at some point in your life, and probably sooner than later.

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Re: WHY do I do this?

Post by Old Soul on 8/28/2012, 12:51 am

Listening and Caring...I ams orry someone in your system did this.
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Re: WHY do I do this?

Post by Tori on 8/28/2012, 2:58 am

I wish you were not angry with yourself but rather the person who gave your phone number out in the first place! Cathie, you have every right to refuse to answer your phone or to even meet this person.

Please don't let anyone bully you ... caring,

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Re: WHY do I do this?

Post by shadowetal on 9/1/2012, 10:04 am

Sorry someone gave out your phone number. Just know that you are in control of you and you don't have to see this person. It is your choice. Thinking of you and caring.

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Re: WHY do I do this?

Post by kkruty on 9/1/2012, 12:13 pm

I agree with everyone else. you don't have to see this guy . You make the decisions. your body your rules.
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