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parent of sufferer needing support if poss

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parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Guest on 5/7/2013, 12:58 pm

I'm a parent of a recently diagnosed teenage girl and would really appreciate any advice available. To set the record straight there was no physical abuse to set the DID off, I was ill and my girl didn't get the support and recognition a child should receive from their parent. This is something I am terribly ashamed about and am trying my hardest to put right.
Is there somewhere in here where support would be available other than open posts as my girl uses this site and gets great benefit from it - I do not want to harm this for her. Thank you.

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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by XTSon on 5/7/2013, 1:03 pm

probably best to ask the mods and administrators should be able to get the info from site main pages.
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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Guest on 5/7/2013, 1:29 pm

thanks

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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Pegasusangel on 5/7/2013, 4:17 pm

I am glad to hear this site is benefiting her. I am a moderator but I think you need to e-mail Felicity as if I moved your post to a more private forum you would not be able to see it because you are not an accepted member. Her e-mail should be on the top of the board. Hope you find what you need!
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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Guest on 5/8/2013, 2:22 pm

thank you. I have been looking through the articles an wow there a lot of info on this site.
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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Fireflies on 5/8/2013, 2:50 pm

I just wanted to say. It is so good that you are supporting your daughter this way and finding out information about DID. We long for and wish our parent would do that. They'd rather deny it, and us and pretend we aren't there.

It hurts us.

You're doing well.

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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Guest on 4/27/2014, 10:19 am

please, please, ask her frequently about her experiences and how she is relating to the world. if she is acting out at school please address this and see if she is losing time or try to see how she is feeling personally. if you notice a drastic change in behavior be it between weeks, months or sometimes years, ask her if she remembers the portion of her life before that. if she doesn't, let her know how she was before that switch.
Teach her as much as possible. address issues directly. communication is the biggest issue. a direct adressing of her issues.
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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Guest on 4/27/2014, 10:21 am

i didn't mean to come off as an expert
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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by felicity on 4/27/2014, 10:27 am

Hi, you can post here - as can anyone, but this forum is open to everyone - the public. Where she is posting, on the other hand, is private in search engines and to anyone except approved members who also have dissociative disorders.

I am not sure of your questions - but, just to say 'anyone' can post here - as long as they are following our guidelines.

Does that help.



     

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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by felicity on 5/10/2014, 5:05 am

I am thinking that the support of peers is very different than the support of a parent or family members. Many of us dream of having caring parents. I believe that 'not' having that nurturing as a child causes more problems than anything else. But, because we are divided, we can still benefit from the nurturing - as can anyone.

Peers cannot 'be' or 'act' as a parent. Neither can therapist (just my belief) - I 'want' my parents to love and care for me even now, and I am 62 yo. They never have and never will.

I guess that I am saying - your writing here is a godsend. She is truly blessed. As a parent myself - I always felt that when you love your children, they know it and benefit from that love that they can't get elsewhere.

Did that make sense?



     

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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Sunshine on 5/11/2014, 2:44 am

Welcome Debq1966,

Glad you want to educate yourself as well as support your child.

I find that the way I best feel supported is when I feel listened too.

I hope we can do that for your daughter and I hope for you as well.

May you find the answers and reassurance your looking for.

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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Galaxy 14 on 5/11/2014, 10:13 pm

I personally believe that DID is a form of attachment disorder
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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Galaxy 14 on 5/11/2014, 10:15 pm

By the way she is very lucky to have you wanting to rectify that now for her I just hope it can be done . Wishing you and her the best of luck
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Re: parent of sufferer needing support if poss

Post by Guest on 6/23/2014, 4:01 pm

I realize the OP started this a year ago, but as a spouse who not only is supporting his wife in her healing journey, but actively participating in it, I've found very little support for those of us (family members, SO's etc) willing to do so. It seems most of us are so taxed caring for our loved ones and also trying to keep the rest of life going on (especially in the beginning) that there's very little time to invest in the wonderful kind of internet groups like IG represents. The only group I'm personally aware of is PODS in the UK but they only will accept people who can geographically attend their seminars. There are a few blogs by husbands, SO's etc that I am aware of, but nothing that amounts to a real support group.
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