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April is Child Abuse Prevention Month - What do you want to say ?!

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April is Child Abuse Prevention Month - What do you want to say ?!

Post by felicity on 4/19/2016, 6:07 pm

Let's add whatever we 'feel' concerning this topic - an image, video (song, story - whatever). Anything that honors children/survivors - thoughts about how we can prevent child abuse -



     

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Re: April is Child Abuse Prevention Month - What do you want to say ?!

Post by Peach on 4/20/2016, 3:33 am

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Post by felicity on 4/21/2016, 3:34 pm




     

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Re: April is Child Abuse Prevention Month - What do you want to say ?!

Post by MultipleMe on 4/21/2016, 5:42 pm

A way we can prevent child abuse is having a greater amount of publicity out there for people to see and talk about. And somehow make it okay for survivors to come out to tell their stories. Get people talking about it and know that it exists.
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Post by felicity on 4/21/2016, 7:43 pm

I totally agree -

Also, it is not enough for survivors just to tell their stories - though, that is a start. Education - like that people gain at the conference is essential - it is difficult to tell the story without knowledge of how it affects you - and/or to have compassion and know how child abuse is affecting other children without education.

Schooling is great, but experts like those who speak internationally? - I don't think they act as visiting professors at colleges.

Raising public awareness at this point is futile. I think everyone is pretty much aware of the horrifying statistics of abuse, child trafficking, etc. Nonprofits, like ours', are not enough to do much - as we are all finding. People just don't seem to care.

Someone asked me what we could do to help that little girl dying - I put up the article. I think a few might have read it.

Well, let's see - we could write lots of survivor stories about how we do understand. We could do an online interview and get the case out to the press and hope anyone reads it and cares as much as they did on my facebook - some 1 'like' and 200 on her twin's fb page. We could hire an attorney - the town is corrupt - however. So, that is not going to help.

Nope - without the 'knowledge' of how the trauma she is enduring will affect her later - as well as the tax dollars that will be spent on her for the rest of her life - if she lives - and, multiply that by the statistics of others who endured similar - and... nope, not done - someone to write, who has the education and empathizes, well enough to tear apart the hearts of an apathetic public (including survivors) more than Prince dying did - that's what it would take to help just one child enduring abuse right now.

Because, the problem has become very corrupt systems, including government and police - (well they have been in many towns for many years), has been ignored - they do what they want now - the only thing that even barely touches them is if the public screams loudly - . No one wants to believe or read about what children are tolerating now. Their stories would make our blood turn cold - maybe, the children should be telling their stories - oh, they are - no one is listening STILL.

I guess, there might be hope, but as I watch people around me drop like flies - including children - no one seems to 'believe' that there really are 'bad' people out there - so why say anything at all. I mean, maybe Prince dying should cause someone to listen - he was complaining about being stalked for years - probably not - though - believing that he just dropped dead from the flu is better than even considering the alternative. To do so would mean that someone could have done something - like believed him or the children or the adult victims, etc. etc. etc. Saved a life? hmmmmm.

Anyhow, lots of sarcasm. Sorry. I do talk to people who are very passionate about helping with these horrid situations we are living in right now. But, I fear our culture overall has gone way beyond 'dissociating away any problems' -

I don't have the answers - I read every day - I educate myself constantly - I talk to people all day long about the problems - and, I read fb and well.... that is our public - we have kids at war, children sold on the streets, - sorry, I will stop now - I am getting triggering and depressive - and, I want to keep this whole thread motivational and positive - right?

People like to laugh things away as conspiracy theories - discrediting anyone who bring to light what is happening in our communities and to our children. Just today, Prince dies after announcing that he was having problems with stalking, etc., our county announced that there is lead in our water, 2 more children taken from the mall, and I can't remember what else. What else will we ignore -

But, we can at least think of all of the children out there being hurt and stuck in horrible corrupt systems. As a society, all of us should be outraged - why aren't we? There is the important question.

I was going to honor the children now by writing a bit of my story which I have only shared with teens whom I have worked with before. I thought that it might be too triggering for here - then, thought - hmm - I have told it in detail to teens who went through the same - why weren' t they triggered? I told the story in court in detail - they weren't triggered - just called me a liar - that was triggering for me. No one really even cared about my story - except the kids. I deserved to be treated like that - really the culture needs to change their ideas of child abuse.

Well, that was a nice rant. Time someone gets a bit angry - huh? Better than being frustrated or just not caring.



     

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Post by krathyn on 4/21/2016, 8:47 pm

some of us are just so taken up by our own needs, i know i am, unfortunately there  is not a lot i can  do.
after Shadow, there is a lot of grief and anger.

Seeing things like that article about the twins, that makes a person angry too.
Right now I have no energy for the anger though because  I  am trying to maintain my  own life. I have cancer, and I hope to survive.
Maybe when I am well I will be able to do something more positive.

There is wayyyy tooooo much injustice in our world. That is a fact.



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Post by felicity on 4/22/2016, 5:42 pm

awww, I just went off on a rant.  

It doesn't matter to me if people don't care to like or share my fb stuff I put up, but I put up a serious post about two girls who really need the attention - it isn't about 'me' and not all about the survivors themselves for once, I just feel like the world has gone up in flames - I guess it goes back to when I was stuck in those twins' place - and no one would listen - no one cared.  Really - what good is social media at all - when everyone is gossiping and caught in their own hatred and bashing so far that they can't click a button or use their finger to share - I just don't understand.  

I admire those who did and got this story out - thank you - you are a blessing to survivors of all ages -

And, I understand that everyone can't take action, and I don't expect people to jump up and 'do' anything at all, but care enough to click a button.  

I don't even expect people to post to a topic honoring the children being abused.  I know it is difficult and people are working to heal - at least, most.

You care so much Krathyn - you do - and, that is what matters.



     

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Post by krathyn on 4/22/2016, 6:54 pm

nice to see a bunch of people here tonight who have not been here in awhile.

Rants happen. Everyone must have a few. Me included

Thank you for seeing that I care, because i do.



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Post by mystory on 4/28/2016, 6:24 pm

April's not over yet and I too am inflamed about the state of things for children but I just want to say I agree felicity with your concerns and support your rant. Any action we each individually take is a step in the right direction. Education is one way. And I think it's not about April, nor do you I'm sure, it just brings up the topic. Alison Miller at the conference last year said to do what I can. Sometimes it feels insignificant but it's not, it just feels that way. I ask almost every day how can I help one other human being? It takes many forms. Sometimes I wish I had done or said something but didn't. I'm getting better at recognizing where I can help. These days we are supporting the groups that have been exposing the abuses in residential schools here. There is hope, but it will take years. Social media is helping a bit and some of our recently elected politicians are involved, but there is secrecy, people in high places mocking the process, denial, but I believe that keeping up the awareness and re-educating will help. Didn't I just hear one former teacher mock the whole thing, it can be so discouraging at times, but I will 'stand' as best I can as long as I can.

Thanks for bringing this up.
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Post by krathyn on 5/3/2016, 8:55 pm

"the child is the father of the man"
children and teens are tomorrow's adults. if we cannot support them we are comitting genocide.
if we can do one thing for one child, we are giving the world a better adult--someone cared for me when i was a teen, even though i had a horribly abusive childhood.
i am happy now, for the most part, with who i have become and that was because of someone who cared.



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