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Being a Discerning Reader

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Being a Discerning Reader

Post by nanabanana on 4/27/2017, 11:45 am

I recently read an article written by someone with lived experience posted on LinkedIn.  I don't deem it relative to mention the author; I won't be quoting or borrowing intellectual product.  And though I thought about composing a critique (to post elsewhere), I realized what bothered me amounted to my own lack of discernment.  Allow me to explain.

The article centered on Self-Care with an adjuration to employ compassion.  Well I certainly agreed with that tenet!  But I overlooked an important caveat in the first sentence of the first paragraph that altered the premise being set forth: that what was to follow was true for mental illness of all forms.

I was distracted by ensuing statements I found myself agreeing with; admiring how well certain ideas were stated.  As I continued to read, I notice a disquieting effect begin to take root.  Could I agree with a conclusion if I was taking issue with the predicates for it?  What was happening?  Why was I experiencing such a strong aversion to the use of a specific noun or verb?

Then it hit me - the writer had said what was to follow was applicable to ALL mental illnesses.  This wasn't an article published in a journal.  But it was an author whose words and ideas had implicit authority.  Or had I simply assigned authority based on my own determination of what constitutes a certain level of knowledge?

Once again, I'm reminded that there is much that is written about mental illness - whether the topic is as bland as 'self-care' or as universal as the need to employ 'compassion' in seeing to self-care - that doesn't apply to those of us who live with the effects of employing dissociation as the main coping mechanism.

I was reminded, yet again and for the umpteenth time, of what I learned when I was first diagnosed with DID: never (underscore, never) give up the Driver's Seat.  Meaning never supplant another's' authority for my/our own!

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Re: Being a Discerning Reader

Post by felicity on 4/27/2017, 4:16 pm

You can put the link to the article here - that works.

I know that articles are posted on the net all the time. It is the simple chore of writing an article and posting it. So, I have written several article and certainly don't expect ppl to take them to heart simply because I wrote them

I take everything that I read with a very small grain of salt. Sometimes, articles that I read cause me to think - that would be a well-written article. And, I have read some very questionable stuff on the net - written by some well-known ppl - doesn't mean that what they write is true - by any means. Some, I might agree with and some are simply bs - but still worth the time to see what others believe or come up with.

I watch people actually 'follow' ppl, because they wrote a book and/or write or share articles - totally giving them authority that most never did anything to warrant - but, live and learn - right. I know one person right now writing several 'articles' a day(more like crazy rants than articles) who has many followers - actually believing every word he writes.

Learning to discern who is worthy of authority is a skill that takes time. Just because someone writes something on the internet does not mean that it has any basis in truth - obviously.

I am glad that you take the time to critique these article - nice to do it with books also.



     

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Re: Being a Discerning Reader

Post by krathyn on 4/27/2017, 8:58 pm

sometimes an article seems too broad or makes me somewhat uncomfortable and it may be time to post back diligently, and other times it may be time not to answer or to see what others say first.
"All" mental illness may not be alike, that is a pretty broad brush.
If something is true of "All mental illness" it may well be true of "all people."
it would be interesting to see the article.



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Post by Morgan Today at 7:40 am

Yes. To say that anything is for all is foolishness. Sometimes I use this phrase, I'm going to have to not do that. I didn't realize how disquieting this statement can be. One must always remember to read anything, especially on the web, with discernment and care. I never believe something I read just because someone said it. I always double check the facts and see for myself. That's the only sane way to behave. Morgan



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Post by nanabanana Today at 3:34 pm

Seeing the recent post today, I thought I'd add this:  I wish I had posted the article I was referring to - so that other's could read it for themselves.  But since I was, in effect, using the article to chide myself for failing to be as discerning as I felt I should have been, I don't think it fair to post it now.  It would seem too critical to the author - who was doing a good job of making her point (the need for compassion/self-care).  It was the matter of being applicable to "all mental illnesses" that I felt was not supported/supportable.  Calling attention to the need for critical thinking when reading was my focus.

Would like to add that I thought the comments posted very thoughtful.  That's the kind of discourse I enjoy.  Reading other people's take on an issue enriches my experience of a topic.
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Post by nanabanana Today at 3:43 pm

Seeing the recent post today, I thought I'd add this:  I wish I had posted the article I was referring to - so that other's could read it for themselves.  But since I was, in effect, using the article to chide myself for failing to be as discerning as I felt I should have been, I don't think it fair to post it now.  It would seem too critical to the author - who was making her point (compassion/self-care).  It was the matter of being applicable to "all mental illnesses" that was not supported.  Calling attention to the need for critical thinking when reading was my focus.

Would like to add that I thought the comments posted very thoughtful.  That's the kind of discourse I enjoy.  Reading other people's take on an issue enriches my experience of a topic.


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