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teamsheree
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Feeling lost and alone

Post by teamsheree on 8/18/2017, 10:44 pm

Ever since my parts went away I have these feelings of being empty, lost, alone and disconnected. I feel like I am missing a part of me. This makes me clingy and needy with my SO and all my friends and comfort eat to stop the feeling. I hate being this way. I don't know how to stop it.
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Re: Feeling lost and alone

Post by ScrambledMedley on 8/19/2017, 7:16 am

Missing your inners is certainly discombobulating, especially when we're so used to hearing them.
May I suggest writing how you are feeling? Writing can be helpful, especially when being bogged down with emotions. It is quite possible that writing may trigger an inner to come forward. I've done that and some of the time it has worked.

Sitting with you and caring.
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Re: Feeling lost and alone

Post by Morgan on 8/20/2017, 5:26 am

Where did your parts go? I'm asking because I'm behind on things and don't know the story behind your post. Morgan



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Re: Feeling lost and alone

Post by 3b's on 8/20/2017, 10:57 am

I don't know if this will fit for you. Whomever is feeling lost and alone is here, is present. This part, or someone inside who knows this part, can speak to the parts that are not felt to be present anymore. These speaking parts are allowed to say whatever they want or write whatever they want to the parts that are not present. This can be spoken into a recorder or a recording app on a smart phone. Then this can be listened to in order to invite a different point of view. Or these ideas can be drawn or painted in a colored or black and white picture. The lost and alone feeling is most likely an experience that is shared by everyone with D.I.D. It helps me to remember that this is a feeling, not a fact. As long as we are breathing, the fact is we are not alone. We are always with our own spirit and our memories of connections with others. Another idea is to use comforting objects, music, or activities to sooth the one feeling lost and alone. These can be like anchors to dispel the lost feeling, or to ride it out until another feeling comes, which it will.  No one can feel just one feeling forever. They always change.
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Re: Feeling lost and alone

Post by teamsheree on 8/21/2017, 2:26 pm

Morgan my parts have gone and I can't feel them.
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Re: Feeling lost and alone

Post by denton on 8/21/2017, 6:30 pm

I do not think your parts have gone, just fallen silent. It happens to me too. Sometimes I think it is a way they have showing thier displeasure or fear of being discovered.

People often do not realize how disturbing this can be. Like your best friend not talking to you and you do not know why.

I find thing usually return to normal in time.

Take care.
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Re: Feeling lost and alone

Post by Cambria on 8/23/2017, 4:03 am

How interesting. Most of those inside me are silent right now too. Some feel totally gone, some, perhaps, fell silent in the face of the great catastrophe that is the US.
I am not sure.
I, Cecil, try to hold it together but it hurts so much.
What I am saying is that I hear you and care very much. Wishing you some comfort.

Best,
-Cecil
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